My neighbor’s Mom kept telling her that “a man is living in the house”.
Mom’s female live in care giver said “no it’s just your mom’s Dementia”
Who is telling the truth? After all her mom did suffer from dementia. Turns out the mom was right the care giver had moved her boyfriend in and he had been living their for many months!
Interestingly a family member visited “Mom” daily but because of Mom’s memory loss and confusion all visits were well documented and scheduled on her wall calendar.
Until one day when my neighbors the husband dropped in unannounced to return a borrowed item, …… you guessed it, low and behold he found the care givers boyfriend sitting eating breakfast at the kitchen table in his bath rob as the caregiver waited on him. A immediate and quick walk through of the home produced toiletries, cloth and other personal items of the boyfriend.
The caregiver was fired and she and her boyfriend moved out and “Mom” was moved into a Assisted living home unfortunately she didn’t adjust to the new environment, she deteriorated quickly and passed away.
The home and other’s felt that the family should have moved mom in sooner giving her a better chance of adjusting. What do you think?
The care of our parents is so very difficult for most of us. They sacrificed and cared for us when we were children. But now when they need us the most we are in the busiest time in our own lives. We have busy active children who need our attention, plus our own careers are in full swing it is our prime earning years. We have college expenses and our own retirement looming over us.
So what do we do? How can we best help and support our parents? There is no easy answer instead like raising children we talk to each other ask questions and try different things. So pease share your experiences with us. Here